July 20, 2021 | 4:29pm
“The Bachelorette” contestant Mike Planeta discussed his decision to remain abstinent until marriage while admitting to a few slip-ups.
“Bachelorette” contestant Mike Planeta may be a virgin, but he’s no saint.
“I am not some perfect little, like, you know, golden boy. Dude, I am a very flawed human being. Like, I am extremely flawed,” Planeta, 31, said on Tuesday’s episode of the “Talking It Out” podcast while discussing his decision to abstain from sex until marriage.
“And I’ve said this, I’ve talked with [‘Bachelorette’ Katie Thurston] about this. I’m very open about this. I may not have had, like, sex, sex, but I’ve slipped up and I’ve had oral sex,” he confessed to hosts Mike Johnson and Bryan Abasolo.
“For me, that was one of the moments where, like, the two times I did slip up and do those things, those were things that taught me actually the significance of why I actually was putting sex on such a pedestal.”
Thurston, 30, axed Planeta from the competition on Monday’s episode. She describes herself as “sex positive.”
Planeta, a gym owner from California, acknowledged on the podcast that he understands being a virgin who also identifies as an “extremely sexual” person may be confusing to many fans.
“I know this is a really weird thing to say because I’m waiting ’til marriage. Like, I’m an extremely sexual dude. It’s just, I have to kind of confine that in ways, like, for me until I get married, until it’s, like, in the right context,” he explained.
“When people think of somebody waiting, right, they think like, [they’re a] prude or they’re not interested in sex or they don’t want to have these things,” he continued. “No, like, I have all these urges, probably times 10, right? These are urges that I, like, fight every single day, but it’s not about me.”
Planeta credits his faith with providing him the discipline necessary to “take a step back” and assess how a sexual relationship would affect both himself and a potential partner.
“[Sex is] a bonding thing,” he said. “It’s a connection thing. Like, it can mask a lot of issues if you’re not communicating and talking about a lot of these things.
“I just want to make it perfectly clear how, like, naturally selfish of a human I am outside of my faith,” he added. “And that’s why I cling so hard to it.”